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Being Sexually Pure

“Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything. "Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:12-20

I spent my teen years growing up in the 60’s and 70’s. It was during the time of the sexual revolution. It was a time when it became the norm to have multiple sexual partners and if you didn’t you were considered weird. I was an incredibly shy young man who would blush even at the hint that a girl might like me. But that changed one day when the very attractive older sister of a friend of mine happened to say that she found me very attractive. I remember realizing how that if I applied myself I could get almost any girl I wanted and it was to this end I started to live. Having one girlfriend was not enough and many times I would find myself dating more than one at the same time. I became a womanizer and wound up in multiple sexual relationships. I hurt many and I got hurt many times as well. The bible says that in 1 Corinthians 6:16: Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh. Every time I had sexual relations with a woman I left a part of myself with her and she with me. I was on a very destructive course and if not for God’s intervention in my life I would probably being living the same way today.

The fact that I had multiple partners hurt my marriage as I would dream about past relations and found myself comparing my wife to these other women. It bothered me a lot because I found my wife to be the most beautiful woman I had ever known. None of these others compared to her and yet each one still was a part of me and it was interfering with our own relationship. My wife had never known another man and it was hard for her to understand what I was going through. It was only through the breaking of soul ties I had made with these women and much spiritual warfare that I was finally able to have the victory. And yet even today if I find I let my mind wander, these past relationships come back to haunt my thoughts and dreams.

We live in a day where nothing is hidden anymore. Things are shown and heard in the media that make even those like me who grew up in the sexual revolution blush. It is getting harder and harder to keep our hearts and minds pure. One of the most important factors in single Christian’s life is purity. We are called to holiness. 1 Peter 1:14-16 says: As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy." It is so easy to give into wrong desires and one of those things that drives us is loneliness. Many fall into sexual sin because they are trying to fill a need in their life which can never be filled by a human being. It can only be found in Christ. He has to be your complete satisfaction. When He is He will bring you that partner that He has for you.

There is a nepurity_ring_481-1_mw movement that has started up in many schools and institutions lately. It is an abstinence movement in which young men and women are making a vow to abstain from sexual relations until they are married. I have been impressed as young Christian men and women such as American Idol winner Jordon Sparks and the Jonas Brothers have declared that they will keep themselves pure and wait until they are married before they have sex. Rebecca St. James is another that comes to mind. They are to be commended and prayed for as they are role models for much of the youth in today’s society. This movement is even gaining merit even among those who are not Christians. The fact is that there is a lot out there which is pretty scary to them such as AIDS and a host of other sexually communicable diseases which are too numerous to count. Those are the fruits of the sexual revolution. The fact is, your sexuality is meant to be a gift for the one whom God has chosen for you. Don’t spoil it. I regret I didn’t have the sense to keep myself until I met my wife. It is something I can never get back and it was the cause of problems in my home. Keep yourself pure. Be patient and keep your eyes on Christ. Your spouse will be pleased you did.


For those of you who like me fell into the trap of sex before marriage. Realize that there is forgiveness in Christ. He can wash away your sins and make you brand new. Renounce your past relationships and break the soul ties you have created with them. Surrender your life to Jesus and let Him take care of the rest.

Quote from Horatius Bonar 1808-1889

Our Christian forefathers had a very different veiw on how we should live our faith as Christians. It puts many of us to shame today. If no one speaks out against injustice and sin, then those who are commiting them would know no better because we have been silent about the truth and we therefore are the more guilty.

Here is a quote from Horatius Bonar.

"For there is some danger of falling into a soft and effeminate Christianity, under the plea of a lofty and ethereal theology. Christianity was born for endurance; not an exotic, but a hardy plant, braced by the keen wind; not languid, nor childish, nor cowardly. It walks with strong step and erect frame; it is kindly, but firm; it is gentle, but honest; it is calm, but not facile; obliging, but not imbecile; decided, but not churlish. It does not fear to speak the stern word of condemnation against error, nor to raise its voice against surrounding evils, under the pretext it is not of this world; it does not shrink from giving honest reproof, lest it come under the charge of displaying an unchristian spirit. It calls sin sin, on whomsoever it is found, and would rather risk the accusation of being actuated by a bad spirit than not discharge an explicit duty. Let us not. misjudge strong words used in honest controversy. Out of the heat, a viper may come forth but we shake it off and feel no harm. The religion of both Old and New Testaments is markd by fervent outspoken testimonies against evil. To speak smooth things in such a case may be sentimentalism, but it is not Christianity. It is a betrayal of the cause of truth and righteousness. If anyone should be frank, manly, honest, cheerful (I do not say blunt or rude, for a Christian must be courteous and polite); it is he who has tasted that the Lord is gracious, and is looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God I know that charity covereth a multitude of sins; but it does not call evil good, because a good man has done it; it does not excuse inconsistencies, because the inconsistent brother has a high name and a fervent spirit; crookedness and worldliness are still crookedness and worldliness, though exhibited in one who seems to have reached no common height of attainment."

I CHARGE [you] in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, Who is to judge the living and the dead, and by (in the light of) His coming and His kingdom:

Herald and preach the Word! Keep your sense of urgency [stand by, be at hand and ready], whether the opportunity seems to be favorable or unfavorable. [Whether it is convenient or inconvenient, whether it is welcome or unwelcome, you as preacher of the Word are to show people in what way their lives are wrong.] And convince them, rebuking and correcting, warning and urging and encouraging them, being unflagging and inexhaustible in patience and teaching. 2 Timothy 4:1-2 (AMP)

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