“Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything. "Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:12-20
I spent my teen years growing up in the 60’s and 70’s. It was during the time of the sexual revolution. It was a time when it became the norm to have multiple sexual partners and if you didn’t you were considered weird. I was an incredibly shy young man who would blush even at the hint that a girl might like me. But that changed one day when the very attractive older sister of a friend of mine happened to say that she found me very attractive. I remember realizing how that if I applied myself I could get almost any girl I wanted and it was to this end I started to live. Having one girlfriend was not enough and many times I would find myself dating more than one at the same time. I became a womanizer and wound up in multiple sexual relationships. I hurt many and I got hurt many times as well. The bible says that in 1 Corinthians 6:16: Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh. Every time I had sexual relations with a woman I left a part of myself with her and she with me. I was on a very destructive course and if not for God’s intervention in my life I would probably being living the same way today.
The fact that I had multiple partners hurt my marriage as I would dream about past relations and found myself comparing my wife to these other women. It bothered me a lot because I found my wife to be the most beautiful woman I had ever known. None of these others compared to her and yet each one still was a part of me and it was interfering with our own relationship. My wife had never known another man and it was hard for her to understand what I was going through. It was only through the breaking of soul ties I had made with these women and much spiritual warfare that I was finally able to have the victory. And yet even today if I find I let my mind wander, these past relationships come back to haunt my thoughts and dreams.
We live in a day where nothing is hidden anymore. Things are shown and heard in the media that make even those like me who grew up in the sexual revolution blush. It is getting harder and harder to keep our hearts and minds pure. One of the most important factors in single Christian’s life is purity. We are called to holiness. 1 Peter 1:14-16 says: As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy." It is so easy to give into wrong desires and one of those things that drives us is loneliness. Many fall into sexual sin because they are trying to fill a need in their life which can never be filled by a human being. It can only be found in Christ. He has to be your complete satisfaction. When He is He will bring you that partner that He has for you.
There is a new movement that has started up in many schools and institutions lately. It is an abstinence movement in which young men and women are making a vow to abstain from sexual relations until they are married. I have been impressed as young Christian men and women such as American Idol winner Jordon Sparks and the Jonas Brothers have declared that they will keep themselves pure and wait until they are married before they have sex. Rebecca St. James is another that comes to mind. They are to be commended and prayed for as they are role models for much of the youth in today’s society. This movement is even gaining merit even among those who are not Christians. The fact is that there is a lot out there which is pretty scary to them such as AIDS and a host of other sexually communicable diseases which are too numerous to count. Those are the fruits of the sexual revolution. The fact is, your sexuality is meant to be a gift for the one whom God has chosen for you. Don’t spoil it. I regret I didn’t have the sense to keep myself until I met my wife. It is something I can never get back and it was the cause of problems in my home. Keep yourself pure. Be patient and keep your eyes on Christ. Your spouse will be pleased you did.
For those of you who like me fell into the trap of sex before marriage. Realize that there is forgiveness in Christ. He can wash away your sins and make you brand new. Renounce your past relationships and break the soul ties you have created with them. Surrender your life to Jesus and let Him take care of the rest.