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Single Parents Support

During this time that I have not been well, God’s Spirit has been gently showing me some things That I feel need to be addressed. We live in a day and age where because of divorce and the preeminence of pre-marital sex and other abuses a large part of the population is made up of single parents. Being a single parent has been an eye-opener for me. There are many struggles and pitfalls that we run into and sometimes the only help we find is when we turn to God. My heart goes out to those who struggle but don’t know the help that Christ can bring. But for those of us that know Christ it can still be hard. What is the church doing to help single parents? Yes, many are in that situation because of their own failures and sin, but it doesn’t mean that they should be treated less then any other member of the church. And yet in many churches they are.

External religious worship [religion as it is expressed in outward acts] that is pure and unblemished in the sight of God the Father is this: to visit and help and care for the orphans and widows in their affliction and need, and to keep oneself unspotted and uncontaminated from the world. James 1:27 (AMP)

You need to understand that single parents fall under this category. They may not be widows or widowers, but they are in the same boat. We all know the effect of missing one parent can have on a child.

If indeed you [really] fulfill the royal Law in accordance with the Scripture, You shall love your neighbour as [you love] yourself, you do well. But if you show servile regard (prejudice, favouritism) for people, you commit sin and are rebuked and convicted by the Law as violators and offenders. James 2:8-9 (AMP)

The royal law tells us to love our neighbour as we love ourselves and that we are not to show prejudice or favouritism. But yet how many of us do? How many times have you let the cries of single parents fall on deaf ears? How many times in a church are the needs of this group ignored and others promoted? We have groups for singles, youth, married couples, seniors, and many more. Being a single parent is one of the loneliest places you can be and yet for a large part they are ignored. I have yet to attend a church that has a group that specifically reaches out to single parents and offers support and help where it is needed. And I have attended many in my wanderings before God finally settled me where I am now.

So then, as occasion and opportunity open up to us, let us do good morally] to all people [not only being useful or profitable to them, but also doing what is for their spiritual good and advantage]. Be mindful to be a blessing, especially to those of the household of faith [those who belong to God’s family with you, the believers]. Galatians 6:10 (AMP)

Single parents may have failed but they are no different in God’s sight than any other of His children. They have been forgiven just as much as you have. They need to be treated with the same love and respect as any other child of the kingdom.

If anyone fails to provide for his relatives, and especially for those of his own family, he has disowned the faith [by failing to accompany it with fruits] and is worse than an unbeliever [who performs his obligation in these matters]. 1 Timothy 5:8 (AMP)

Many take this verse as meaning your immediate family and I believe it does also but also believe it talks about the Body of Christ. If we are not caring for those that God has given us in the church, how can we care for any others He brings our way? There has to be a balance.

I will be looking into starting a Single Parents Support Group within the next month. Hopefully this will not only be an encouragement for those who are single parents in the church but also will be a source of evangelising those who have not found the hope we have. I ask for your prayers in this and I would also ask other single parents in other churches to see if God lays it upon your heart to start one in your area as well. But please first seek the council of your pastor and elders before you do. Make sure it’s from God. We need each other and I believe that the children of single parents become the responsibility of the Body in raising as well. I thank God for all those who have come into my children’s lives and helped them through crisis when I as single parent felt overwhelmed. Pray for the single parents in your church and community. Ask God how you can help as well.

And the King will reply to them, Truly I tell you, in so far as you did it for one of the least [in the estimation of men] of these My brethren, you did it for Me. Matthew 25:40 (AMP)


Some Helpful Resources;

Focus On the Family Canada

Christian Single Parent Resource

A Cup of JoyA Christian faith based not for profit resource center for single parents.


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Comments on: "Single Parents Support" (8)

  1. There\’s an account in Tony Campolo\’s book Let Me Tell You a Story, where a single mother went to get her child baptised at a church.  I believe it was soimewhere in the Bible Belt… and a lot of the locals had spurned her for being immoral.  This being the case, she had not had the courage to ask anyone to be godparents.  However, when the time came for the service… at the point where the vicar asks the parents and Godparents if they are willing to bring the child up in love, in the Christian faith.  The congregation stood in unison and uttered the required response "with the help of God we will."
    I would imagine you could have heard a pin drop after that.
    That\’s Christian love.

  2. Good morning Gerry/everyone!
    It always amazes me how some Christians can turn their backs on others and be judemental. You\’d think of all people they\’d know better. I seen this happen at the lodge I used to work at and I think I mentioned it on here before. A bit of a different situation, but still we see favortism and judgement. There was a resident who was an atheist and many not only alienated her, but went out of their way to be nasty to her. As a Christian we should open our arms up to people and through action hopefully make a difference in their lives-we set the example.
    Same thing in this case what makes us holier than thou when it comes to another person who has made some mistakes in their lives and are now a single parent?? and btw I think our mistakes can be learning stepping stones and make us who we are. I think as a Christian we should support single parents as they have a very bumpy road to travel that can as Gerry put it be a very lonely one AND doesn\’t have to be if people would accept them and reach out a helping hand. On the other side of the token a single parent needs to also ask for help when in need and not assume they will be looked down upon because this isn\’t always the case.
    Gerry this is a great thing you are going to be doing for many! As a mother of twins I am a very busy lady, but can\’t possibly begin to know what it is like to be a single parent this is the hardest job of all and a single parent should be comended for their efforts not discriminated against.
    God bless and hugz p.s. You\’ve got my prayers in this 🙂

  3. I agree with Addy.
    Theres no reason to be quick to judge.
    Most of these young ppl are uneducated and left in the dark.
    I hope this latest trend ends quickly.
    p.s. I\’ve joined the club.
    (does that mean i get a link on the side?)

  4. I love the song you have playing..
    Stopping by to say hello, and of course, GOD BLESS, Kelly

  5. here here… great blog… hope that the Single Parents Group you are starting will be an abundant blessing in the community you are in.. God bless!

  6. Hello there,
    how are you doing? excellent commentary. I feel the same way being married though…very much so.  may i copy and paste your blog in my yahoo 360 friends blog if I put your web address so they can come to here??? there are so many singles who would be blessed by this. I will respect your wishes.
    take care of, Nan

  7. Gerry,
    If you don\’t stop these commentaries, I\’m gonna end up agreeing with everything you say! 
    Seriously, thank you for writing that.  I think a great number of single parents have made mistakes and feel alienated by those who claim to follow Christian wisdom. 
    I don\’t think that anyone can go wrong by embracing a faith —- I very much admire your capability to welcome the \’unwelcome". 
    Thanks for writing that.,

  8. I like this post of yours as the self-proclaimed atheist that I am.
    It is probably true that your own single parent status and the bitter custody battle in which you appear to be engaged probably makes you a better Christian. Sometimes those who suffer are stronger for it and have deeper understanding. Anyway, I hope someday that works out in a sane way without kidnapping and such.
    That you claim Christ is a great way for single parents to turn I cannot as an atheist deny. Whatever hell on earth may be, there have been those that have suffered it as Christians. I\’ve met some who\’ve done that and survived and I can\’t deny being inspired by them. Still, more important I think is the fact Christian do seem very much oblidged to be open people. It is not an easy faith to keep perhaps, but a christian who does not open the welcome mat to people who\’ve crossed the wrong path is a bit of a poser. I always find it ironic to read the New Testament and then look around our soc iety and see Christianity as the religion of the right wing. Bizarre. Enough camels, needles, forgiven adulteresses, theives in heaven, and enough with the salt of the earth stuff too. Even more impressively the NRA loves Christianity?

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