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The Miracle of a Child


Children are a gift from the LORD;
they are a reward from Him.
Psalm 127:3

In society today many children are treated as if they are a burden instead of a blessing. An inconvenience for a woman’s or family’s career or lifestyle. Between the years of 1973 and 2000 there were 39 million reported abortions performed in the United States. So come on out all of you who think that it is a woman’s right to murder a child. Let’s call it what it is, murder. We talk about war and death in other countries, when there is a holocaust going on right in our very midst. People are using it as a form of birth control and we are throwing away lives.

A new born child has always produced in me a sense of awe and wonder. A child is a miracle of the creative power of God. A new heart, which has never before beat on earth has been born. Each child is unique. They are given their own personality and appearance. Each one has a genetic code that nobody ever had before.

Scientists not too long ago finished for the first time in the history, a map of the genetic code of the human body and declared that the paper pile produced by this data would be taller than the Washington Monument.

Psalm 139: 13-18 says this;

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.

Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous–and how well I know it.

You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.

You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God!
They are innumerable!

I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up in the morning,
you are still with me!

I remember the birth of my daughter. My wife was in labour for 37 ½ hours. We started to wonder whether the baby was ever going to arrive. (Later I learned that one of daughter’s character traits is that she likes to take her time and this was her way of showing us that she was not going to be rushed). When the time of the birth was near, she got caught in the birth cannel and was strangling. The doctors had to work quickly to get her out. I cannot endure the sight of blood, but that day it didn’’t bother me. I wanted only that my wife and my child were healthy and safe.

The doctor announced that it was a girl and I let myself go. I cried like a baby and at the same time I praised God for his goodness. It was the first time in my life that I had witnessed the miracle of birth. Melodie-Joy was perfect. I remember when they put her in my arms. I had never seen anything as beautiful as this child. She cried but whenever I spoke and comforted her, she would stop and look at me with her big eyes. I was bound to that child that day. I thank God each day for her. We gave her name Melodie-Joy because the day after her birth she made musical noises while she was feeding and she had brought such joy into our hearts.

Two years later, Gabriel Adam came along and once again I was blessed to take part in this miracle. My two children are unique as is each child. They are such an incredible blessing to me. Sometimes I even wonder if they are angels in disguise. God knew them before they were born. He gave them the breath of life and for this reason, I am eternally grateful.

Melodie-Joy and Gabriel – Thank-you for being who you are! Though I have raised you as a single dad for the last 10 years, Not once have you ever been a burden. You are wonderfully and awesomely made. I love you both. I thank God for the priviledge of being your father.

 

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Comments on: "The Miracle of a Child" (30)

  1. thank you for sharing such a personal moment, it is a wonder how anyone could think of aborting a child. as far as i am concerned i am very much against abortion, i could have been aborted and i wasnt, i am very thankful to my birth mother, whom i have contact with, that she did not abort me and that she made the really difficult decision after 10 months of raising me to give me up for adoption. i dont know if i could do that myself, but she made the right decision not just for her but for me also. because of it i grew up in a Christian home, with pastors as parents, i got to travel around the world and live in two other countries other then Canada. and most of all i was in the right place at the right time to meet my husband. and from this relationship God has blessed us with two beautiful and smart little girls.blessings, and thankyou for sharing.bethany.

  2. Wow, that story really did touch me, ouff…thanks for sharing! I could have been aborted because my mom was a single 16 yrs old teen…but here I am today and I am soooo very thankful to my dear mother…and I try my best to say THANK YOU to God everyday for the greatest gift: LIFE!Thanks for sharing such a deep story…With much happiness,-Janik =)

  3. Recently I read that a student asked "Why did God bless the fish and animals and man but not the plants?" I read the passage below and thought "Wow… the blessing was to be able to raise children!" Lots of food for thought!! As I read it again, did He bless the animals or just sea life?God Bless!Gen 1:21 And God created great whales, and every living creature that moveth, which the waters brought forth abundantly, after their kind, and every winged fowl after his kind: and God saw that it was good. 22 And God blessed them, saying, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth.23 And the evening and the morning were the fifth day. {And the evening…: Heb. And the evening was, and the morning was etc.} 24 ¶ And God said, Let the earth bring forth the living creature after his kind, cattle, and creeping thing, and beast of the earth after his kind: and it was so. 25 And God made the beast of the earth after his kind, and cattle after their kind, and every thing that creepeth upon the earth after his kind: and God saw that it was good. 26 ¶ And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

  4. Hi Gerry;First off thanks so much for your thoughts on my question in regards to the internet. It\’s so nice to see it being used in a positive way to reach out to people and show them Jesus and a good way of life rather than all the negative influences out there. What amazes me is all the lost souls out there on the net looking for something and not knowing what that something is-the lord!This message really hit home with me! I\’ll never understand how anyone could find any excuse to abort a baby and say it\’s ok or that \’up to\’ a certain point they are not a human being. This is such a lie. As soon as they are conceived hey are a life.Hubby and I tried for years to get pregnant and during that time had two miscarriages. We went through a infertility clinic and eventually were blessed with our girl and boy, twins. We always talked of wanting twins and I don\’t think it\’s a coincidence we ended up with twins. I have many friends that still after years of heartache do not have children. It\’s really sad especially when someone else can so easily throw away such a precious gift.We got on the subject the other night of twins, DNA and cloning. It\’s amazing the advances in technology these days. Can\’t say I agree with cloning, but what still holds true is whether you\’re an identical twin with exact DNA or a clone you STILL have a different soul and personality, which points out that in the end technology or not it\’s God\’s work that puts us here. Just something we got discussing.Anyways great message and God bless everyone!

  5. You just happened to post right around the time that I did…so I noticed the name of your space and thought…This must be a Christian! Thank you for your awesome words on how children are a blessing…Sometimes when you are a SAHM it makes it hard to remember in the tantrum times that they are a blessing, and in my devotions today, I asked God to remind me that my kids are a blessing…NOT a curse…The truth of these words has blessed me today…God Bless

  6. adoption IS a nine month long abortion.i too disagree with abortion, but the church has a long way to go in following its own teachings.every situation is different, but i find that adoptive parents these days, look to having a child to fullfill THEIR lives. They cannot come to terms with their infertility. this is then pushed on a young unsuspecting pregant mother.a child is a blessing given by God. Even if we sinned, God blessed me anyways. What a sacred bond between mother and child. I just wish the church realized what kind of scars adoption leaves both mother and child.just as Paul said in the bible about forgiving the person who had violated a child in church. that is how far forgiveness goes. single parents, especially young ones, find little or no support. this to me is sad.i plan on running a group for single parents. because you cannot keep throwing ppl\’s sins in their faces. what is done is done. let\’s get on with raising these children up in God\’s ways.i hate the billion dollar industry that caters to the infertile and shuns the young mother. God doesnt make mistakes when it comes to His creations. Myself and my children are living proof. 3 generations of adoptions in my family shows the scars. How many times have i walked into a church and given dirty looks and been unwelcomed because i look so young. i feel a mother should *first* be helped to raise her child, and be given the time and support to be with the baby. Only then, can she make the decision to give it up for adoption.I dont agree with abortion or adoption. But if an adoption must happen, their identities shouldnt be erased, and it should be done in the most open way possible, again giving the respect to the mother and child bond. I look to Moses in the bible when it comes to god\’s stance on adoption. he rose up and reclaimed his real identity. and even his mother got to care for him even after letting him go for his own safety. sorry, but the church has a long way to go on education on the effects of doing such an unnatural thing. be it abortion or adoption.Erika

  7. I respect people\’s differing views, but had never in my whole life heard such ludicrious that adoption is a 9 month abortion! I commend the young moms or any mom for that matter that knows in her heart she cannot properly take care of her child to put him/her up for adoption. Would you rather the latter where a child is neglected or unloved??? Try seeing the eefects of that. Also walk a mile in another\’s shoes before you generalize people. Most infertile couples I\’ve met are the most loving people you\’ll ever meet and yes there are the few that are trying to fill a void in their life, but I thank God every day for those infertility clinics they help millions of people fullfill their dream of becoming parents when all they want to do is love a child. Something mothers who can concieve on their own don\’t always do! Same can be said for adoptive parents alot of them are wonderful people and are angels in disguise. They raise a child as their own and show them a better life than they probably wouldv\’e had with their biological parent/s.Of course as mentioned each situation varies so it\’s usually not smart to generalize the whole population. Equally unwise is to prejudge without having lived through something yourself first!Anyways my two cents worth.

  8. Hey there Gerry ,blessings!! You should be proud of yourself ,not to many fathers are even in their childrens lives,that is why we have so many kids that do not know where they fit in ,in life, they are walking around almost lost, Bless you brother!! Michele

  9. Ah Ha!!! I told you when u met God and he said what have u done??? above all your other work, the most important was raising your 2 children..and being able to present them to the Lord, just as you did when they were baptized…..you raised them well my friend and He is proud of you…bless you, you have done better than all of us..everything else is marbles….bless you and your work…

  10. Pls re- read my statements. I said firstly, that every situation is different. and at the end, i said, that if an adoption must occur, identities shouldnt be erased, and that it should be done in the most open way possible.I have spent the past 5 years doing substantial research on adoption and its effects on both adoptees and natural parents. I\’ve spoken with thousands of people right across Canada and the US.You are sadly mistaken on so many levels. There is established medical research that states two things.Separating a mother from a child causes the Primal Wound. It causes mental health effects that scar for life.Secondly, adoptees are over represented in mental health facilities and struggle with their identity. Many are left feeling "grateful" to adopters and "unwanted" by natural parents.There is also a billion dollar industry that exploits many young women. For instance a well meaning young mother may recognize her inability to parent or have real insecurities about becoming a parent. She is then promised financial help and everything under the sun by adopters. Open adoption is another carrot. Most open adoptions close within 2 years of an adoption. No one warns the mother of the life long grief associated with giving the child up. Why does she have to be cut off?Why cant she be involved in her own childs life? simply put, because a-parents long to be "mommy and daddy". they cannot see past this desire.True orphans, are parents who are deceased, incapacitated and depraved. Even when an adoption occurs, children should not be treated like possessions and have every right to know their history (for better or worse).unfortuanately, infertile parents "dreams" have very little to do with children\’s needs. The United Nations has already produced several reports on domestic adoptions and is quoted as saying "the desire has now changed from a desire to provide a needy child with a home, to providing needy parents with a child".I wholeheartledly commend adoptive parents who choose adoption with the right heart and intentions. Who choose to raise this child with openness and do not try to stop information and contact. What I seriously doubt about adopters, is the fact that there are over 25 thousand children who are crown wards, who are not of caucasian descent, who continually get shuffled from home to home because they arent "adoptable" or seen as wanted by adopters.If you truly wanted to be a parent, if you truly walk in the christain faith, you would welcome these children with open arms, instead of going on about your infertility nightmares. Erika Kleinwww.adoptioncanada.net

  11. Not all adoptions should be kept open for the simple reason that in the end it could confuse the child and make things worse for him or her if their biological parent came waltzing back into their lives whenever they pleased. Once you give a child up for adoption and particularly if you aren\’t a stable person with issues you *shouldn\’t* have open access to that child. Stability is very important to a child. For eaxample if a drug user mom gives up her child what gives her the right to pop into her child\’s life whenever she all of a sudden feels like she should. That adoptive parent has established a safe, loving home and I disagree that it should be ruined. As you say it\’s the *child\’s* needs not the parents, biological OR not!Also hubby and I *had* considered adopting a non caucasian child if our *infertility nightmares* as you put it didn\’t work out, but luckily we were blessed with two wonderful children! as well I look on our infertility as a blessing as it made us who we are today, where we\’re sensitive and can empathise with others more readily. As well most couples who have had troubles having children appreciate their children all the more when they do go on to have them. We had a kind caring specialist look after us and I met many wonderful people going through the same journey. I pray for them all everyday. Unless you\’ve gone through the same thing you can\’t know what it is like. Having a child is one of the most satisfying important relationships you\’ll ever have and for alot sadly they will never experiance this first hand. So yes, a child is a blessing and one too many people never realize the full extent of.Wow, never thought I\’d get into such a deep conversation over this. I guess when it all boils down we all agree that children are pretty special people 🙂

  12. Got so caught up in my thoughts on this I forgot to mention that I think it\’s a wonderful idea starting up a group for single parents. Can\’t imagine raising a child on my own it\’s difficult enough with two parents!

  13. Thanks for your response. It\’s true we agree on the very same thing. A good book to read is called Adoption Healing by Joe Soll. It explains alot of the issues we are speakingabout.http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/AdoptionHealing.htm*open* does not mean full acceess. Depending on the natural mother\’s situation, it can be anything from a picture and letter every few months, to supervised visits to visits.It is wrong to say it will confuse a child. Children fair far better knowing the truths than having it hidden from them.It simply means the child has more family.Most children sense things on a much deeper level. I dont disagree that certain parents shouldnt be allowed access. but they are the few, not the many. Cheers,Erika Klein

  14. Thanks for the link and I will check it out. I guess we will have to just agree to disagree on a few things. This blog entry has really opened my eyes to a few things though within myself! I never knew I felt quite as passionate as I do on a few subjects LOL This space is quickly becoming on of my favorites!God bless everyone. Hugz

  15. I too, do not like the thought of abortion, but it is happening all the time. When a young woman gets pregnant, sometimes it is her parents who convince her to have it… we all take advice from our parents. What these parents don\’t realize is the guilt that lies inside their little girl, sometimes forever. So, we cannot blame young women, it is society, and what it is teaching us. I have a little girl, i have recently became a single mom. I hope to raise my daughter to not get caught in that kind if position(getting pregnant). We all need to do this. If the time comes and she is too young, under the cicumstances i would help her, if we can\’t do that, definetly adoption!! We live in a beautiful world, why can\’t this unborn child see it. It is not fair to throw away a child, when you can give someone a child. Why end the child\’s life before he/she gets a chance to make someone else very happy and proud. When you ask someone why they agree with abortion,usually they say because some people can\’t take care of the child, this is the stupidest answer, the answer is adoption, that way everybody wins!!!

  16. good space check my space out From The Womb, To the Grave Ministry I think you\’ll enjoy it

  17. I\’ve checked out your space before. Very lovely indeed. You\’re welcome to visit mine. We\’ve been the cancer ordeal the last oh 15 or so months and my husband should return to work in April we hope. God has been a wonder and a transforming grace in our lives. My husband and I are Christians too and were when we married over 26 years ago. I noticed that your wife went through mental illness. I have a brother and a sister who have had pretty difficult lives too, not to mention all who care about them.

  18. The-Country-Cowboy said:

    Gerry, Interesting you should post this; I just today posted another blog on abortion myself. God Bless you, and your children. How is Melodie by the way, she used to stop by my space quite frequently and hasn\’t for a couple months now which has me worried something might have happened to her since the shooting incident, as that is the last time I heard from her.

  19. DRINKING FROM MY SAUCER I\’ve never made a fortune, and it\’s probably too late now. But I don\’t worry about that much, I\’m happy anyhow. And as I go along life\’s way, I\’m reaping better than I sowed. I\’m drinking from my saucer, \’Cause my cup has overflowed. Haven\’t got a lot of riches, and sometimes the going\’s tough. But I\’ve got loving ones around me, and that makes me rich enough. I thank God for his blessings, and the mercies He\’s bestowed. I\’m drinking from my saucer, \’cause my cup has overflowed. O, Remember times when things went wrong, My faith wore somewhat thin. But all at once the dark clouds broke, and sun peeped through again. So Lord, help me not to gripe, about the tough rows that I\’ve hoed. I\’m drinking from my saucer, "Cause my cup has overflowed. If God gives me strength and courage, When the way grows steep and rough. I\’ll not ask for other blessings, I\’m already blessed enough. And may I never be too busy, to help others bear their loads. Then I\’ll keep drinking from my saucer, "Cause my cup has overflowed.

  20. I think we have to be careful of criticising adoption. There are several biblical precedents of adoption type scenarios (as you pointed out, Moses was given up by his mother to save hs life – but Samuel was also given up for God\’s service by his mother. In fact this wasn\’t an uncommon practice. under Jewish Law, the Firstborn son belonged to God… if the parents wanted to keep the child they had to redeem him by paying a small nominal fee to the Temple – a ritual known as Pidyon ha-Ben). In fact, according to the Talmud an adoptive parent is regarded as if they had brough the child into the World, although it is true that the child\’s status under Law is defined by their genetic lineage. Infact many Jews see adoption as a way fulfilling the obligation from Genesis to go forth and multiply.I\’m not against Christians adopting at all in principle, however I do recognise that some people who have been adopted do have serious issues. I have suffered because of knowing two broken adopted people who have both cut me deep in their own way. Some people clearly have deep wounds that need praying for. The calling of an adoptive parent is not an easy one and should be prayed about before being entered into.We should take the Romans 14 approach on this respecting and bearing with one another for our differing choices which both sides claim they are doing out of love and service for God. We should be gentle with one another and respect a differing view.So lets say something positive. Instead of condemening adoptive parents, we should pray for them and encourage them. We should pray that God breaks any spiritual hold the enemy has gained through parental rejection or loss.I also think as Christians it is not righteous to condemn people for giving up their child in trying circumstances. If you have been in a similar circumstance and not taken the same path – give glory to God, but don\’t hold yourself any higher – for how is that any different to how the pharisee treated the tax collector? I would say as Christians, a righteous response is to use the Church\’s resources (financial, pastoral and compassionate) to help parents in danger of making such a grave decision through poverty or inadequacy, feel so supported that they don\’t feel they have to contemplate adoption.Tony Campolo reported on a story of a town where a single mother had given birth to a child out of wedlock. It was in a time and place where such things were publically frowned upon. The young mother took the decision to have her child baptised in a traditional manner. All through the service she sat nervously… feeling they eyes of other watching her. She had not picked any Godparents for fear of oputright condemnation from the community around her.However, when the time came for the minister to ask who would pray support and represent the child… something amazing happened. The whole Church stood and with one voice said "We will."THAT is practical Christianity at work. THAT is how we should reach out to people.

  21. "Children fair far better knowing the truths than having it hidden from them."Wow. I\’d never contemplated this before. I have never questioned the idea that an adopted child does not get to have a relationship with their adopted parents. I just accept the fact that that is just the way it is.Is this man\’s idea or God\’s idea?What an awesome Bible study to do!Thank you so much for this Erika!!! Just when I thought I wasn\’t religious… ;-)Jason

  22. Sorry, that should read: "have a relationship with their BIOLOGICAL parents"Jason

  23. Some things I\’d like to clear up in my past posts, which I didn\’t mention is that I do think adopted children should have access to info. about their bio. parents WHEN they\’re of a certain age of maturity, then it is up to them if they choose to start up a relationship with that parent/s. Of course as mentioned before each situation varies so in some cases an open adoption may be appropriate, but I still hold strong that not all should be open. Not to start up this debate again, but I just don\’t want people out there thinking I am against any relationships adopted children may seek with their bio. parents. And also that\’s just my opinion :)Also I may not know the bible inside and out, but do consider myself religious and close to God. More importantly I try to treat people with kindness and respect.Thank you KnightPilgrim for that interesting message. I\’ve never really thought anything negative before in regards to adoptive parents. I would hate to have them viewed as vultures, instead of the loving people most of them are and not all are people who can\’t have their own children. In fact my husband and I have considered adopting if we do decide to have a third child(saying that right now seems crazy LOL!). I think adoption can be a beautiful thing if it\’s done with the right parents. I didn\’t know that info. you posted from the bible, very interesting. Thanks again!Hope everyone is having a great week. God bless.

  24. Thanks for all your comments on adoption. It really opened my eyes to the subject. But the greatest example of adoption is what happens when we come to Christ. We are by nature children of wrath. Romans 8:14-16 says "For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God.And then again in Galatians 4:4-6 Paul says But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!”And finally Ephesians 1:3-12 says Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace which He made to abound toward us in all wisdom and prudence, having made known to us the mystery of His will, according to His good pleasure which He purposed in Himself, that in the dispensation of the fullness of the times He might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven and which are on earth—in Him. In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will, that we who first trusted in Christ should be to the praise of His glory. As adopted sons and daughters we are given the same rights as Christ. His inheritance is ours. Wow!

  25. There are so many misconceptions about adoption.And as human beings, we are all biased in some way.I did not attack all adopters but merely pointed out the motivations and issues that adoptees and natural parents are faced with.Each situation is unique and there can be no black and white answers. I have spoken to thousands of adoptees during my research, and even at church as a "birth mother" ppl say the most ignorant things to me. I dont hold it against them personally. Instead I pray about it and I make sure when I teach them it is done in a way that isnt attacking.The sooner a child knows about their adoption the better. Does this mean telling them all the gory details? Of course not. It s the same discussion you would have them about where do babies come from or anything else. It has to be handled delicately and age appropiately. It has to be done in a way that doesnt make the child feel "grateful" telling someone we chose you is very damaging in some ways.I met a woman who didnt find out until her late 40\’s!Who in the world has the right to keep a human beings origins and history from them? the answer is no one.I highly doubt that most adoptive parents would be able to carry a child for 9 months and then give it up as a "gift".And because she has sinned does that mean she owes you her child? The truth is, natural mothers are neither saints or sinners. We\’re simply human beings caught in a difficult situation. Even a woman who makes the choice to give her child up, is provided with very little support or recognition of her grief. It is a life long grief, and I feel that for mothers like me, I should be honored enough to be allowed contact.Keeping secrets and springing it on them when theyre older is really unfair. You can give them info as needed, where appropraite so they can begin to cope with it in a healthy way and know where they came from. It saves alot of trauma and identity issues when theyre older.Please read my statements carefully. I\’m not advocating for full disclosure on a 4 yr old. But does that 4-6 yr old recpgnize they dont look like anyone in the family? Of course. I have an 8 yr old at home who currently has zero contact with her deceased fathers family. I made this decision for her own safety. But I have given her pictures of her father and told her about her father. His personality where he comes from, who he is. I tell her that when she is older she will be old enough to decide contact for herself. I didnt tell her anything negative about them. THat will be her decision to make when shes older. (just an example)I\’m so happy we can discuss this here. I know it blesses God\’s heart, that when we speak of an issue we recieve understanding. Erika

  26. Well, for one, I am a man, and a father. So that pretty much eliminates me somewhat from truly understanding the true female/motherly undertones of this issue.However, off the top of my head, and in the light of the scriptures Gerry brought up, it\’s clear that God has adopted us. The Bible also says to honor our natural mother and our father. If God\’s system was the same as our governmental system, the scripture should read, "forget your mother and your father".The fact that the adopter,(God), encourages the adopted,(Us), to retain right and reverential relationships with our biological parents, tells me that our governmental system is not following God\’s system of adoption.But what of the drama, confusion, well-being and peace of the child through all of these matters?Back to my Bible… I\’ll be back.Jason

  27. It\’s been great hearing different views on this topic and info. taken from the bible in relation to it!Jason I\’d love to hear what the bible has to say in regards to that. I guess that\’s where my main view came from was in regards to the welfare of the child emotionally and in some cases physically as well. The child should always come first as far as I\’m concerned.Erika sorry if I came off a bit harsh at the beginning of your first post. I was just taken aback a bit by your statement that adoption was a 9 month abortion. It upset me because I know how difficult it is to have a child and I couldn\’t imagine comparing adoption to throwing a life away. I\’m not trying to be knit picky or critical, but what exactly did you mean by that comment? I\’d just like to know if I misunderstood it in some way. It\’s been great chatting with you though on this topic. I think anytime we discuss things with other people we not only learn more about them, but ourselves in the process. Take care 🙂

  28. The Knight Pilgrim\’s post seemed right on in terms of christiainity and adoption.Here\’s why i made the stmt to answer your question.Firstly, anti-abortionists always throw adoption on the table as an alternative. Yet they fundamentally do not understand the scars or the magnitude of what this "choice" does to both mother and child. Many, *many* women have abortions for this very reason. They cannot bear a child and have it in them to give it up. And sadly society does not provide the support and churches dont either.For both the adoptee and the natural mother, it is the very same feelings involved as abortion. Abortion scars women also. They dream of the baby they mightve had and greive for the loss. Women tend to "get over" abortion much faster, altho it is not something they just "get rid of" and go on. I know that for some women having one affects them, deeply and profoundly.Adoption is abortion, only ten fold. The adoptee, often wonders why they were given up, why they werent "wanted" and nothing an a-parent says can ease that. It has to do with their very being, their identity and that is something many long to know and understand.It\’s having your babies life ripped away from you, and it is all along the lines of "unwanted pregnancy". thus, it is a 9 month long abortion to the mom.Erika

  29. Thanks Erika for posting what you meant by that statement. I can\’t say I agree with it, but do agree that it must be awfully hard to give your child up for adoption. I wasn\’t adopted so I don\’t know how it affects people first hand, but I\’d hope with the help of loving adoptive parents it\’d ease some of that feeling of rejection. Also agree there needs to be a support system out there for these mothers so they can make an informed decision.IMO as a mother I\’d be far more scarred having an abortion than giving my child a fighting chance in this world through adoption if I had to, but again that\’s just me and every person is different. As well it wouldn\’t just be about me, but about another human being one that can\’t make decisions for themselves.

  30. Hi Gerry, Just dropping in and wanted to say hi. Hope this day finds you and your family well. When you are at Church next please say hello to Pastor Paul and his family. Tell them they are in my prayers and that they are missed on msn spaces. Since their site has been closed down I have missed all the encouraging words Pastor Paul would share. This family have been a great witness to the people here on msn spaces. Please tell them they are missed and loved but always prayed for. I was so touched by your stories of the birth of your children. The way you shared the accounts of your children\’s births was so special. I could sense the love and the joy you have for your children. You are doing an awesome job in raising Melodie-Joy and Gabriel. Your children are richly blessed with such a Godly Father who truly cares for their lives. What an awesome Godly heritage you are bestowing on your children. They will look back and remember all the blessings you instilled in their lives while growing up. My prayers go with you always. Your Sister in Christ, Judith

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