You thrill me, LORD, with all you have done for me!
I sing for joy because of what you have done.
O LORD, what great miracles you do!
And how deep are your thoughts. Psalm 92:4-5
My first date with Elaine was really lunch. She came to meet me at my work and we went across the street. She had a large salad and I had a chicken brochette. We discovered how much we had in common concerning Christian music. We both liked Keith Green and John Michael Talbot as well as so many others. I learned a lot that day about how her dad had manipulated her family. She worked night shift for room service at the Sheraton Hotel downtown, but was uneasy with it as part of her job was taking orders for alcoholic drinks.
I helped her to move into a small apartment that she would share with a friend and we began to spend a lot of time talking on the phone. She would take her bike up to work and many times I would bike up there with her to keep her company. Her English began to improve. It was incredible the number of times we would run into each other on the bus or subway or at a store. We didn’t even live that close to each other and yet there she would be so unexpectedly.
Our friendship began to grow and I began to wonder if she was the one. One day we went to Quebec city for the day. I had never been there. We had a nice picnic on the Plains of Abraham and walked around the old city. It was a beautiful day and one I’ll never forget, yet we were still just good friends who enjoyed each others company.
One day in the fall we went for a walk. Something seemed to be troubling her and I asked her what it was. She said that she was beginning to notice that I liked her much more than as just a friend and that she wasn’t ready for that type of relationship. She said she felt the need to end it now before anyone got hurt. I was hurt and I wondered if I had misjudged things. All that time together doing things. All the time on the phone and all of a sudden cold turkey. I went home and prayed and asked God for His direction. In that still small voice of His, He asked me; "Are you willing to serve me even if you had no one in your life?" At first I really struggled with what I heard. There was a strong desire in me to settle down and have a wife. After a few days struggle this joy entered into my soul and knew without a doubt that God was first in my life and I would do whatever He asked me to do even if it meant being single.
A few days later as I was recording some music, my phone rang. It was Elaine. She and her friend were going to see a Christmas cantata called the Matchstick Girl up at St. James United Church and they had an extra ticket. She was wondering if I would be interested in going. I said that I thought she wanted to end our friendship and she said what she meant was just not see each other as much. So I agreed to go. It was a very well done play. It was a group from a bible collage down in the States that once a year would come up to the city for Christmas. I wish I could tell you the whole story of that cantata, but I can’t remember much about it. Halfway through the presentation, Elaine slipped her hand into mine. We had never held hands before. It was totally unexpected, but very welcome. She whispered into my ear that she was sorry and that she had realized by my absence how much I really meant to her. The rest of the cantata was a blur as my every thought was about the beautiful woman sitting beside me holding my hand. Our relationship after the cantata became very intense and everywhere we went we were holding hands. She moved back in with her mother and it was a good thing to because it would keep us from getting into trouble. God had put me to the test as he had Abraham with his son Isaac.
A funny thing about us men is that we like the challenge of a conquest. It’s in our nature to conquer. Before I came to the Lord, I was always pursuing women. Sometimes I was successful, other times I was not. The less a woman paid attention to me the more I wanted her but once I had that woman my interest in her would wane. It began to happen with Elaine. Her love for me became intense and my interest began to wane. She was so beautiful and everything I ever wanted and yet I found myself wanting to run. I started making excuses not to spend so much time with her. One evening as I was reading the word and the question about Elaine was heavy on my heart, four words jumped out at me. "Do not forsake her." It is from a passage in proverbs concerning wisdom, but for that moment it answered a deep question in my heart followed by a great peace. It was at that moment that I made the decision to love Elaine no matter how I felt. It was also from that moment that I knew she would be my wife.
One of our favourite restaurants was called Mother Tucker’s. Located in an old mansion in the heart of downtown Montreal. Their roast beef and homemade apple pie couldn’t be beaten. In the fall the following year I took her there and we sat in a private booth. I had made my decision and was going all the way. After we ate I took her hand and pulled out a little box I had hidden in my pocket. I told her I loved her and that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. As I showed her the rings and asked her to be my wife, she broke down and cried tears of joy. She said yes!
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